2nd Wedding Preparation Dilemma: Who to Invite

For weeks, a month even, I've been facing my little notebook of "Who to Invite" and it seems like I couldn't figure out who am I really going to invite on our wedding day. I've been scrabbling names all over the pages repeatedly, stopping midway as it gets complicated and repeat the process. It became my little notebook of "WHO TO FREAKING INVITE?!"

One of the most difficult part of planning your wedding is deciding about who's coming to your wedding. We first planned on having a big, lavish and traditional wedding. First of all, I have a big family on both my mom and dad's sides. And as I was listing the people I was going to invite, the list seems never ending. And during those times, the budget never came into consideration. All I know is that I should invite them because they're family. Or that they may get butt-hurt because they've invited theirselves long before you even decided to put them on the guestlist... But as time goes by, wedding planning is getting stressful. I started to put into consideration the budget that we have. And everything that should be included in the vendor's list. If I don't apply any remedies on this, I swear we will get lots of debts after the wedding. And I don't want that.

I was only thinking of inviting 150 people. I'm kinda pushing myself that it is okay, thinking that 150 isn't considered as a big wedding here in the Philippines. But if you're going to ask me, I think that it is too much people! Hell, a class of 40 students is already difficult to handle, just imagine 150 different personalities... Plus, I don't like getting stressed. I mean, who likes that.. right? Unless you have a lot of money to splurge on really good coordinators and all those extra added entertainment and food for all those 150 people, then why not? Right? Also, if you don't mind getting almost zero balance on your bank or worse is hitting the red mark on your bank accounts... Then go for it! WHAT A BRAVE SOUL! But beware and be ready for those sleepless nights after the wedding, your conscience speaking... "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO PAY THIS PXXX,XXX?!"

Well, I don't like that. Screw the wedding trends, screw traditions! We're going to do whatever shit we want!

In the end, we both agreed on an intimate wedding. No more than 40 people. We are only inviting those people who are really close to our hearts. It does not necessarily mean they are a relative. They could be friends who we already considered a relative. 

But, we will also have a very informal barbecue after. It's more like an after-party for those people who we couldn't invite! I just hope no one gets butt-hurt. B