For weeks, a month even, I've been facing my little notebook of "Who to Invite" and it seems like I couldn't figure out who am I really going to invite on our wedding day. I've been scrabbling names all over the pages repeatedly, stopping midway as it gets complicated and repeat the process. It became my little notebook of "WHO TO FREAKING INVITE?!"
One of the most difficult part of planning your wedding is deciding about who's coming to your wedding. We first planned on having a big, lavish and traditional wedding. First of all, I have a big family on both my mom and dad's sides. And as I was listing the people I was going to invite, the list seems never ending. And during those times, the budget never came into consideration. All I know is that I should invite them because they're family. Or that they may get butt-hurt because they've invited theirselves long before you even decided to put them on the guestlist... But as time goes by, wedding planning is getting stressful. I started to put into consideration the budget that we have. And everything that should be included in the vendor's list. If I don't apply any remedies on this, I swear we will get lots of debts after the wedding. And I don't want that.
I was only thinking of inviting 150 people. I'm kinda pushing myself that it is okay, thinking that 150 isn't considered as a big wedding here in the Philippines. But if you're going to ask me, I think that it is too much people! Hell, a class of 40 students is already difficult to handle, just imagine 150 different personalities... Plus, I don't like getting stressed. I mean, who likes that.. right? Unless you have a lot of money to splurge on really good coordinators and all those extra added entertainment and food for all those 150 people, then why not? Right? Also, if you don't mind getting almost zero balance on your bank or worse is hitting the red mark on your bank accounts... Then go for it! WHAT A BRAVE SOUL! But beware and be ready for those sleepless nights after the wedding, your conscience speaking... "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO PAY THIS PXXX,XXX?!"
Well, I don't like that. Screw the wedding trends, screw traditions! We're going to do whatever shit we want!
In the end, we both agreed on an intimate wedding. No more than 40 people. We are only inviting those people who are really close to our hearts. It does not necessarily mean they are a relative. They could be friends who we already considered a relative.
But, we will also have a very informal barbecue after. It's more like an after-party for those people who we couldn't invite! I just hope no one gets butt-hurt. B
Even before we got engaged, we were already talking about how our wedding will go. To be honest, I never really had a dream wedding in mind when I was young. But I did dream about having a debut party years back. I want to be really pretty, wear stylish clothes and celebrate it with my friends and people I love. Well, ofcourse, me being the most stunning and gorgeous of them all *evil laugh* But yeah, I can soak all day on that thought but my practical side would talk to me and make me realize that those things are for people that has the capacity to do so.
While we are not entirely incapable of doing it, it is yet unpractical to save for months or years even, for a celebration you're just gonna celebrate for a day. I mean we're not ridiculously rich either, you know. And as a realist myself, I know that those money that we saved should better not go to one of those ridiculous one-day celebrations, besides we're a family of 7: my parents and 5 siblings, me being the eldest, so it really is unpractical to do it.
Anyway, I never really had a dream wedding in mind. I never really see myself wearing a white dress, because let's face it, wedding dresses are, sort of scary or at least the dresses that was imprinted on my mind when I was a kid. You may never believe this but when I was a kid, I am such an adorable young kid that almost everyone loves me. Haha! JK! I was chosen to be a flower girl in a couple of weddings (don't ask me who's wedding cause I barely know those people), I remember them putting a lot of hairspray on my soft hair, making it hard and ugly! (I mean, who likes touching hard hair?!) I also remember them letting me wear those ugly shiny dresses that are so hot, I remember them putting a lot of makeup on my face! Ugh, I hate that one! They put a red lipstick on my lips and it smells and tastes ugly so I'm like pouting my lips off my face like, 'Could you please take this shit off my face', and I remember them asking me to hold a basket of flowers which I don't like because there's no candy or any snacks on it! Okay, sure. I was smiling on the photos but hell! I never really like being a flower girl on the weddings I went to before!
Also, when I grew up a little bit and my grandmothers are dragging me to weddings of people I barely know of, I didn't really enjoy it. So, to sum it up. I hate weddings and I think they are boring.
But as I grew up. I realized that weddings can be beautiful and that it really means a lot. Especially to those people who are really close to your heart.
I'm wondering if that is common or the norm is girls have their dream wedding. Or maybe, dream wedding starts when you're around 20. Haha! I don't know! But let me tell you this, I do have a dream wedding now. And I'm going to tell you that story on my next post. So stay tuned!
